Confusion about Love
By Mary Elizabeth Williams, who needs to do more thinking about what love is (clue: it’s neither romance nor self-realization): When you live in a place with a 50 percent divorce rate, is “till death...
View ArticleIs Marriage Overblown? (RJS)
Scot brought an article to my attention a few weeks ago – with little to do with science, yet much worth thinking about. This article, All the Single Ladies, by Kate Bolik was published in Nov. 2011...
View ArticleThe Secret to Marriage
From Phil Huber, at New Wineskins: I just finished reading Happily Ever After: Six Secrets to a Successful Marriage by Gary Chapman. The book is a fairly typical example of the marriage enrichment...
View ArticleSingle, and Not Happy about it
From Ellen McCarthy: A good post on crashing some stereotypes, and a good reminder to listen. Braitman’s mom died six weeks later. She had always loved her daughter fiercely and supported her fully,...
View ArticleThe Story is Everything
The Story we tell ourselves, or the Story in which we are living, or the Story in which we want to be living, determines everything. If you tell yourself the Story of Happiness, then everything you do...
View ArticleGray Divorce — Sad
From WSJ: For the new generation of empty-nesters, divorce is increasingly common. Among people ages 50 and older, the divorce rate has doubled over the past two decades, according to new research by...
View ArticleEarly Marriage Stressors
From USAToday: Good advice? Don’t let stress sabotage your relationship, says Thomas Bradbury, co-founder of the UCLA Relationship Institute. His advice: 1. Get stress on your radar. Learn to recognize...
View ArticleDivorce Advice
By Russell Moore: Dear Dr. Moore, My wife and I are at an impasse. There’s been no abandonment, no sexual immorality, and no abuse. We just don’t get along. We shouldn’t have married. We should have...
View ArticleDivorce-Proofing a Marriage
Here’s a news item by Kathy Benjamin on stats and divorce, and each has a short explanation at the site: 1. Quit Smoking 2. Take Up Optometry 3. Share Chores 4. Live in a Blue State 5. Hang Out With...
View ArticleAn Inexpressible Treasure
To talk about marriage requires wisdom. Wisdom is learning to live in God’s world in God’s way, and God’s way is the gospel. Marriage then is learning about how the relationship of a man and woman...
View ArticleWhat Makes Marriage Optimal?
Let’s begin with a question: What is the element or dimension or ingredient that makes marriage work? Some marriages sustain themselves a long while, some of them through the whole of a couple’s life,...
View ArticleMarriage as Covenant
Marriage is like an A-frame house. The two grow closer together to form one life on the basis of a solemn covenant made with one another, a covenant that sustains the two during stress and that forms...
View ArticleBeyond the Clouds
I joke with my friends from Seattle that I have heard there are mountains in the area but yet to see them, but truth be told: I have seen the mountains and Mt Ranier. Tim and Kathy Keller, in their...
View ArticleCracks in the Bridge
From a distance the bridge looks healthy, even attractive. Up close, and under the eyes of a careful observer, the bridge has cracks. If the cracks are attended to in the right way at the right time,...
View ArticleYes, Call it what it is: Patriarchy
For a long time I have said a number of times that I don’t like either “complementarian” or “egalitarian,” since the former is not really what is meant and the latter is too tied into modernity. I only...
View ArticleThat Word
Kathy Keller defines “submission” so much it no longer means submission. Which is just the point. Jesus did too. (But I have to say that when that word submission is defined this way one has to wonder...
View ArticleThe Goodness of Singleness
Tim and Kathy Keller buck a trend that I have heard in the last decade, and that trend is that if you are single at 27 or 28 or 29, you are out of God’s will. Their contention is that since the...
View ArticleBirth Control
Albert Mohler, President of Southern Seminary, opens up a big bag of issues in his post on birth control and the evangelical. What are the issues here? Is this a moral problem for evangelicals? Do you...
View ArticleSafe Sex: Is there such a thing?
Michael Hidalgo says No. (Follow his twitter feed here: @michaelhidalgo) Here is his post: We have to stop talking about “Safe Sex,” and instead talk about the beauty of risky sex. No, this is not some...
View ArticleWhat Would You Say?
A letter from a writer, appropriately edited to bury identification: The question is open for you: What would you advise? I have debated with myself for some while in regard to whether or not to send...
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