Four Relationship Defeaters
From Barking Up the Wrong Tree: How can he tell who will split up? There are a number of indicators but at the core of Gottman’s research are “ The Four Horsemen.” These are the four things that...
View ArticleComplementarianism and Darwinism
The facts are clear: Charles Darwin sketched animal behavior, and one good example is that of how male and female pheasants interacted, in the mode of Victorian theories of the relation of the sexes....
View ArticleWhat is Love?
Sonja Lyubomirsky’s principal statements about love follow: She distinguishes “new” love from “companionate” love… What is love? How does she define love? American and European researchers tracked...
View ArticleWhat Men Want
From USAToday: And according to a broad national survey of almost 5,500 unattached adults 21 and older, those qualities, attitudes and expectations illustrate cultural shifts in how singles approach...
View ArticleRelationships Have Changed
This old piece from Esquire magazine from 1949 shows how much has changed. This can go in several directions for conversation, but what this illustrates at least is that perceptions of the...
View ArticleMarriage Tension: Chores
From WENDY KLEIN, CAROLINA IZQUIERDO, & THOMAS N. BRADBURY: Insightful. Couples are composed of individuals who coordinate their behaviors in relation to one another. In working families—where both...
View ArticleThe Brownson Challenge
At the heart of the traditional view of same-sex relations is “gender complementarity.” That is, men and women are designed by God physically and constitutionally to complement one another. Often...
View ArticleThe Marriage Issue
David Frum may well have it nailed: The marriage issue, Frum is arguing, needs to be fought at the level of getting people married and getting people to stay married. So should the Christian leadership...
View ArticleCan We Read One Another’s Minds? Andrew Root Says Yes
We all know the experience of the irresistible nature of yawning — when someone we loves yawns we yawn right back. Somewhere I read that those with good skills of empathy yawn when others in a room...
View ArticleWhat is Love?
Stephen Post: Love manifests itself in different ways, all of which are necessary and useful. If love is the hub of a wheel, its spokes point outwards according to the needs of the beloved. There are...
View ArticleAnn’s Encouraging Words
From Ann Voskamp: There’s a world that wants to force women into smothering plastic molds and whisper that she wants to be a shape and not free. There’s a relentless refrain that wants to cage women...
View ArticleMarriage Pitfalls (by Jim Martin)
My good friend, Jim Martin, VP at Harding Graduate School, wrote this up the other day: Most of us need at least one of these; some of us more than one. 1. Beware of ignoring your wife’s spiritual...
View ArticleEmotional Modesty
From Holly Gerth, a conversation starter: A few weeks ago a friend of mine were chatting. Her husband is in a leadership role at a church and she shared how women often confide in him in ways that are...
View ArticleSandra Stanley on Marriage Words
Sandra Stanley’s wise words about words: While nothing was dramatically wrong in their relationship, they realized what had begun as humor and innocuous teasing had slowly become a bad habit. The bad...
View ArticleThis Pope is Different, a Valentine Message from Francis
Source Today, everything is changing rapidly and nothing lasts for long. This sort of mentality leads so many who are getting ready for marriage to say they will be together for as long as love lasts,”...
View ArticlePerceiving Commitment Levels of Co-habitation
From LiveScience: Marriage is linked with numerous health benefits that simply cohabiting doesn’t seem to provide. Now, research suggests the reason why — the brain links “just” living together with a...
View ArticleJesus, Paul and Grounds for Divorce
At the Ecclesia church planter’s gathering last week Bill Webb presented on the redemptive movement hermeneutic and then I “illustrated” Bill’s approach by looking at the divorce texts in the NT to...
View ArticleWhy Millennials are Not Marrying (Corrie Mitchell)
Source 1. We’re driven by our careers. 2. True love isn’t waiting. 3. Men are acting like boys. 4. We don’t know how to date. 5. Singleness is attractive.
View ArticleLove-ology
We need books on love, and we need books on marriage, and what we most need is both to soaked with how the Bible and Christian faith teach both — because we inhale and exhale modernity’s and...
View ArticleLoveology: A Review
This review is by a person who has thought about the topic and by a person to whom John Mark Comer has written his book, Loveology. The review is by former student, Kellie Carstensen, who led a student...
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